How to use sensitivity as a strength in leadership.

My lived experience has been that my sensitivity has often been judged as a weakness, marginalised and made wrong.  I have received comments like, “you’re too fluffy” or “you’re too sensitive” or “that’s not important here” most of my life.  For many years I internalised the view that my sensitivity was a weakness and wrongly … Read more

Read More

A year of reflection, rediscovery and brave beginnings

Vanessa May · Courage Unfolding – A Year Of Reflection, Rediscovery And Brave Beginnings   This time last year I was preparing to launch my book. I was excited, nervous, and anxious. I wasn’t new to writing having in the past blogged for Psychologies Life Labs, Huffington Post and Tiny Buddha.  But something was different … Read more

Read More

How to create your own support team

Sometimes in life, we experience hard things. Sometimes when it hurts the tendency is to react by armouring up, being tough and going it alone. After all, you absolutely know that you can rely on yourself – but can you?   Being fiercely independent and stoic can also mean that you’re in an echo chamber of … Read more

Read More

How to clear the noise when you’re overwhelmed

I woke up this morning feeling anxious. My brain has too many tabs open. It was full of things that were on my list that needed attention. Each one felt massively important and urgent. I am at capacity this week with work, and I notice how my week started with an urgent request for a … Read more

Read More

Why women fail to experience true career success

I often hear experiences of women working harder, earning less, staying in unhealthy work environments and juggling everything whilst putting themselves last.  These women share their stories of struggle, pushing hard and frustration.  They feel like they take one step forward and two steps back. They come to coaching with dilemmas like … It feels … Read more

Read More

Why it’s actually OK to be selfish

One common thread among the women I work with is this notion of having to hurry everything.  They wake up with a list in their heads, then jump onto the wheel of juggling work and life and the many roles that come with it.   They’re so busy – but it’s the kind of busy that … Read more

Read More

How to stop apologising and own your authority

A close up image on blue feathers with 'How to stop apologizing and own your authority' written over top of it.

Live Courageously is a book for women who conform to people pleasing, procrastinating, burning out, self-doubt and imposter syndrome but know they’re built for more.  The book draws on my own experience and those of women I’ve coached. Women like me who have surrendered to playing small, holding back, keeping quiet, fearful of claiming what … Read more

Read More