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Why your future won’t be found in the past
I noticed that over the past year I could find my heart and thoughts being drawn back to the past. Sounds, sights and smells would take me back to a remembering of life before my divorce, of a time when...
10 affirmations to help recovering perfectionists
Sometimes we are unkind in the way we talk to ourselves. We hold up high ideals and expectations and when we struggle or fail to meet them, we can give ourselves an incredibly hard time whilst pretending to the outside...
How your relationship to support impacts your progress
Over ten years ago I was in California on a leadership retreat. It was an experiential leadership training with the Coaches Training Institute and whilst I had done their coach training, I hadn’t fully understood the impact of learning in...
Approach your New Year’s resolution with acceptance and challenge
January is the season that many humans set goals for themselves. Perhaps you’ve set a work goal to get the promotion you want or find more purpose and meaning. Or maybe there’s a desire to be healthier and fitter or...
How to set up lasting intentions for the New Year
Do you recognise this cycle? It’s New Year’s Eve and you’re full of excitement for the possibility of a new year. You imagine all the dreams and possibilities. Fuelled by the happy hormones of excitement you define your new year’s...
Can’t think clearly? Here’s 3 simple ways to create space in your mind
One reason clients hire coaches is because they’ve got a lot going on, they feel overwhelmed and notice they’re stuck and procrastinating, churning over the same thoughts in their minds. It’s part of our shared human experience to land in...
A simple strategy to deal with self blame and sabotage
Up until this year I’ve never really understood the phrase when life throws you lemons make lemonade. How do you make something sweet when it is naturally sour? Is it about appreciating and accepting the sour moments? This year has...
How to get out of overwhelm
Overwhelmed by everyday things Kate is a character from the first chapter in the book I am writing. She comes to coaching complaining of working long days and feeling emotionally drained. In her mid-forties, she is at an age where...
Dare to let your inner critic out for the day.
Imagine you gave your inner critic full permission to say whatever the hell it wanted to during your day... You drop something, “ooh you stupid shit” You say something in a meeting, and a few people snigger, “ha, see what...
Track your simple moments of everyday courage
I woke up this morning with a simple and clear message for myself. Stop asking “how can I help?” Start asking “what do you need?” I have been around this loop many times and I’ve nailed it with clients and...
Make your second lockdown easier
Vanessa May · Make Your Second Lockdown Easier We got through the first lockdown with cheers for the NHS and the knowledge that summer was on its way. But now we’re heading for winter, days are darker and there’s...
Supercharge your gifts
Vanessa May · Supercharge Your Gifts Discovering core truths, aliveness and authenticity really matters to me. I believe we humans have a short earth walk and sometimes our conditioning has us hold back expressing our gifts. Bronnie Ware in...
How on earth do you just be you?
Vanessa May · How On Earth Do You Just Be You? "Just be you" Yesterday, I was reading an interview with actress Sofie Gråbøl about what she’s learnt. The article ended with the following comment: “I hate it when...
